Encouraging and supporting your child through manageable threats (dissing, bullying) helps in building coping mechanisms that is critical for the development of resilience. We need to remind ourselves that NOT ALL STRESS is harmful.
There are numerous opportunities in every child’s life to experience MANAGEABLE STRESS—and with the help of supportive adults, this “positive stress” can be growth-promoting.
We know that over time, we become better at coping with life’s hardships, both physically and mentally. We should share some of our stories with our children as evidence that we live in hope. When our kids know and understand that they have to forge forward even if the situations looks dire, they get to understand that hardships are part of the growing up.
We need to remind ourselves that the only time to step in is when our children experience significant adversity. Open communication with all parties will help you to understand you child's struggle.
Research has identified a common set of factors that predispose children to positive outcomes in the face of significant adversity. Individuals who demonstrate resilience in response to one form of adversity may not necessarily do so in response to another. Yet when these positive influences are operating effectively, they “stack the scale” with positive weight and optimise resilience across multiple contexts.
These counterbalancing factors include
Supportive adult-child relationships;
Building a sense of self-efficacy and perceived control;
Mobilising sources of faith, hope, and cultural traditions.
Try some of these phrases when assisting you child in tackling problems:
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